[活动] 辩论:cohabitation is beneficial to marriage or not?

Travis

 

 

 

TOPIC:This house believes that cohabitation is

beneficial to marriage

               PROS: cohabitation is beneficial to marriage

               CONS: cohabitation is harmful to marriage

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MikeJing

I think marriage is really something very very serious. It will effect not only the two people, but also the two family or even more people. So it is better to make thorough preparations. Cohabitation is a preview of marriage and could make you more clear about your couple.

Travis

Well, Mike, i agree your idea on making preparations, and i would support a full body examination before getting marriage, but not having a cohabitation. I think we should never take it as a kind of preparation. Since you already know that marriage is something serious. We should hold a serious attitude towards very serious things. Many negative impact would take place in cohabitation. Actually i just examine a test report on pregnancy and abortion rate. as far as i could see, cohabitation raises the possibility by great extend. If you wanna cohabit, you should be able to take full responsibility of what will happen. Do you think you are able to make all of these? Do you think you will be able to go to earn your living with a BIG stomach? when all this happens, there are only two ways to go: 1 : take an abortion 2: get marriage and i am sure the first option will do great harm to you no matter psychologically or physically. And it's great harm to your love, i've witnessed several stories on breaking up after getting greatly injured by negative impacts on cohabitation. how to save your love? how to treasure your other part in life? Getting marriage! and it provides a harbor for you to breath after you have taken ALL of the injuries by cohabitation. Well, finally you are comforted by getting marriage, how ever, the story is painful. So, i strongly believe that cohabitation before marriage is harmful. This is LT, thank you very much!!!

elsa

I appreciate LT's opionion about cohabitation as a gentleman. Well,I strongly support your opinion..you've ever said what i am going to say.. As we know that very clearly marriage means very serious and important for everyone.well,Mike,would you pls answer my below questions? No.1 :Have you thought about marriage before you cohabit with a girl? No.2 " Are you sure you can marry the girl if someone who cohabit with you?

涟漪

no need to say anything ...... because everyone who live on earth knows it..... BTW , 英语角搬去哪里了？

Travis

原帖由 涟漪 于 2007-12-12 21:12 发表 no need to say anything ...... because everyone who live on earth knows it..... BTW , 英语角搬去哪里了？

红树林老地方啊.

MikeJing

OK, guys, I found your replies just now and I would continue to give you my opinions.

MikeJing

First, answers to Elsa's questions. 1. I have thought about marriage before a cohabitation. 2. I am not sure I could marry her. That's the reason why I take a cohabitation. If I am sure that I could marry her, I would marry her at once, instead of a cohabitation.

MikeJing

Second, to Travis, What would you do if you find something beyond your tolerance after marriage? I would not give the really example. But imagine, they are just something you could never bear. What would you do then?

MikeJing

Take this comparison between medical examination and cohabitation. Both have costs(time/money/risk of being infected, maybe AIDS, and abortion), and both could prompt you something(possibility of an illness or divorce) before something else that is more serious(endless pain from the illness or marriage). So my opinion is, having cohabitation is harmful, but not having cohabitation might be more harmful

swallow-yy

This is a good topic,I have read what Lt and elsa said.Maybe what they said is right,but in my opinion,I agree with MIKE. Such as you said, Marriage is really something very very serious. Love is a kind of feeling.When we begin a love relationship we treasure it very much. Love is easy but difficult to live. marriage contain a lot of things,such as bavin,rice,oil,salt. How could you know a person by thousands time of dating? or only some intimate talk between you and your boyfriend? That's quite dangerous if you don't know him well. Cohabitation is a good way.So I agree cohabitation on the condition that the two persons are mature physically and mentally.

Travis

i got only one question here for both Mike and Swallow: If you love someone, you will cohabit with her or you will marry her? love is holy and cohabit is not. Love is treasuring your other part and cohabit is not If you wanna treasure love, please DON'T commit cohabitation If you wanna treasure your GF/BF, please perish the thought of commiting cohabitation LOVE is holy, love is treasuring, and let's worship love

MikeJing

I treasure my love and health, so I make preview and examination for them. Because there might be greater hurt if you go ahead without enough preparation.

Travis

Mike, But your preparation is COHABITATION, and for girls, it's a kind of hurt if they got pregancy, abortion, or other problems. This is how you treasure love? okay, i treasure you, and i will cohabit with you as the preparation for our marriage.....

多多

Cohabitation is a common practice nowadays especially among young pople. I must say, I have no bias against cohabitation at all cos that’s a kind of life styles which I truly respect. However, I tend to believe that cohabitation makes no contributions to marriage. Marriage is a lifetime’s business that requests mutual understanding, adaptation, and sacrifice of the couple. You’ll never get yourself well prepared no matter how long you’ve been cohabiting with your love, as you don’t have any hints about what will happen next. Cohabitants easily enjoy the good out of marriage , e.g, sex at any moment, without taking any responsibilities that come after marriage. Thus, what else can they expect after they get married? And because cohabitation is not legally recognitory, it’s more likely becoming an easy come easy go relationship with less consideration and cares that people apply to marriage.